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What parents should do to give the best treatment for their sick toddler?

Calm and relaxing environment. It is not easy to keep a sick toddler rest and down, but the good news is, it isn’t necessary to keep a sick toddler down – unless he seems to need the rest. There are no evidences that bed rest affects a mild illness one way or the other. And mommy can almost trust. Read the rest of this entry »

Despite its faults, TV does offer access to wonderland of experiences – sights, sounds, and people – that a child can find nowhere else.It can take children to the far corners of the world or even the universe, expose them to the past and the future, the everyday and the exotic, the arts and the sciences.

These followings tips will help your family derive the most benefits from his medium with the least risk:

Setting rational limit now. Before eighteen months, a toddler can easily do without any TV at all. At eighteen months, half an hour a day is sufficient. When your toddler passes his or her second birthday, consider expanding TV viewing to an hour a day, particularly when outdoor play is limited because of inclement weather. But allowing more TV time than that for toddlers, who should be spending most of their time doing rather than watching, is not a good idea. Read the rest of this entry »

Although, today’s research shows that spanking is not effective, from time to time, parents still tend to spank their children as a means of discipline and punishment.. Children who are spanked frequently may give up repeating their misbehavior, just to avoid a repeat spanking, but they obey because they are afraid. So, instead of learning to distinguish between right and wrong in life, they learn to differentiate between what they get spanked for and don’t get spanked for. And they wouldn’t understand self-discipline.

Giving spank to children has many negative aspects. For one, it is an example of domestic violence, and children will learn from it, as they are more likely to use physical force against peers, and later against their own children. For another, by teaching children that the best way to settle a dispute is with force, spanking denies them the chance to learn alternative, less hurtful, ways of dealing with anger and frustration. It also represents the form of bullying, that the very big is abusing the very small (the weak one). Spanking is also humiliating and demeaning to both the parent and the child, often shattering self esteem and morale.

Furthermore, spanking can also lead to serious injury, particularly when it happens in the heat of anger. Spanking after the anger has cooled may cause less physical damage, but seems even more questionable. It is certainly more cruelly calculated, and in the long run is less effective in correcting behavior, since the punishment is so far removed from the offense. Read the rest of this entry »

The hardest part of leaving your toddler with a baby-sitter or a caregiver will always be saying good-bye. To make it little easier, try the following:

Get ready in advance, when possible, so you can spend time together before you separate. If your pass the last half hour before the baby-sitter arrives getting showered and dressed, your toddler may feel neglected while you’re still home, and abandoned once you’ve left. Also try to avoid rushing around frantically at the last minute. This will not only leave you feeling frazzled but could transmit a sense of anxiety and upheaval to your toddler. At least fifteen minutes before you leave, sit down with your child and read a story, so a puzzle, or build a house with blocks. If you simply don’t have the time to get ready in advance, get ready together. Set out some toys or dress-up clothes for your toddler to play while you dry your hair and put on clothes. Read the rest of this entry »

Sometimes it is not easy to raise our children with good values while the society itself always seems lack of it. And, though we all have values that we want to pass on to our children, we worry that wont success, as we remember ourselves as teenagers, used to reject and disobey most values our parents have taught us, and always tried to figure out everything by our self.

However, besides all rebellion and rejection behaviors from kids (especially in teens – age) toward values, there is a fact that consciously or not, parents can and do strongly influence the way their children treat themselves and others, and the attitudes their children take toward family, charity, honesty, work, environment, and dozens of other moral issues.
By their own instinct as parents, most of them are doing a pretty good job of passing on their values, much as their parents did, and their parents before them; good and solid values seem to run in families. Still, the following recommendation can help parents to pass their torch of values to their children; Read the rest of this entry »

Parents tend to think that they are the only parent who ever has a toddler collapse, kicking and screaming, in the middle of a busy sidewalk. They are the only parent whose toddler ever refused to wear shoes or a coat on a snowy January day. They are the only parent whose toddler yanked down an entire candy display at the supermarket.

However, the fact is, toddlers are almost universally difficult at least some of the time. Look beyond your own “terrible two-er”, and you’ll realize you’re not alone in your toddler trials and tribulations. All parents of one- and two-years old have their share. It’s just that you’re more likely to be upset by unpleasant behavior in your own child and more likely to dismiss it in someone else’s (after all, when that other child lies kicking and screaming in the middle of the sidewalk, it’s is no reflection on you)

If reading many books, references, and articles about toddlers is not enough to persuade you that you are not the only parent who has the same experience; you might try joining a support group for parents of toddlers. Meeting with others, watching their toddlers have tantrums or refuse to get their coats on, will be very reassuring. It will also give you a chance to swap not only problems, but solutions. Read the rest of this entry »

Young children have gone barefoot for most of human history, and still do in many parts of the world, so the defivinitive answer to the question, “what is the best shoe for the beginning walker?” is still evolving. Since feet are more flexible, stronger, and healthier in societies where shoes are shunned, most experts believe that no shoe is the best shoe. They recommend that children be allowed to go barefoot even in our society, where wearing shoes is the norm. Of course this is not always practical outdoors, where shoes are usually needed for protection, and in cold weather, when they’re needed for warmth. Nor is it always feasible in drafty or poorly heated homes, where floors are chilly. Slip-proof slipper socks are a good indoor compromise; they allow plenty of free movement while keeping feet warm. Read the rest of this entry »