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Although, today’s research shows that spanking is not effective, from time to time, parents still tend to spank their children as a means of discipline and punishment.. Children who are spanked frequently may give up repeating their misbehavior, just to avoid a repeat spanking, but they obey because they are afraid. So, instead of learning to distinguish between right and wrong in life, they learn to differentiate between what they get spanked for and don’t get spanked for. And they wouldn’t understand self-discipline.

Giving spank to children has many negative aspects. For one, it is an example of domestic violence, and children will learn from it, as they are more likely to use physical force against peers, and later against their own children. For another, by teaching children that the best way to settle a dispute is with force, spanking denies them the chance to learn alternative, less hurtful, ways of dealing with anger and frustration. It also represents the form of bullying, that the very big is abusing the very small (the weak one). Spanking is also humiliating and demeaning to both the parent and the child, often shattering self esteem and morale.

Furthermore, spanking can also lead to serious injury, particularly when it happens in the heat of anger. Spanking after the anger has cooled may cause less physical damage, but seems even more questionable. It is certainly more cruelly calculated, and in the long run is less effective in correcting behavior, since the punishment is so far removed from the offense.

Make sure that sitters, nannies, and other caregivers never give any physical punishment in any form by any reason to your child. If you want to enroll your toddler to daycare of preschool, be sure that they have policy that prohibits corporal punishment (though this won’t absolutely ensure that a staff member will never strike a child).

If there is any evidence of physical punishment to your child from the caregivers by accident or on purpose, first of all, remove your child from his or her care, check your child’s physical condition (whether he is seriously injured or not), then, if it is necessary take him to the doctor for full body medical check up. Also report this incident, as appropriate to the agent or organization in charge or to the Child Abuse Reporting Hotline.

Experts believe that a smack on the hand or the bottom may be warranted in a dangerous situation to get young to understand words – for example, when a young toddler wanders into the street or continues to approach a hot stove following a stern warning to stay away. The idea is not to inflict pain, but to quickly call a child’s attention to the seriousness of the situation. Such a slap should be followed by an explanation – “If you run into the street, a car could hurt you”. Once a child shows that he or she understands what you say, however, physical force is no longer considered justifiable even when safety is issue.