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Although, today’s research shows that spanking is not effective, from time to time, parents still tend to spank their children as a means of discipline and punishment.. Children who are spanked frequently may give up repeating their misbehavior, just to avoid a repeat spanking, but they obey because they are afraid. So, instead of learning to distinguish between right and wrong in life, they learn to differentiate between what they get spanked for and don’t get spanked for. And they wouldn’t understand self-discipline.

Giving spank to children has many negative aspects. For one, it is an example of domestic violence, and children will learn from it, as they are more likely to use physical force against peers, and later against their own children. For another, by teaching children that the best way to settle a dispute is with force, spanking denies them the chance to learn alternative, less hurtful, ways of dealing with anger and frustration. It also represents the form of bullying, that the very big is abusing the very small (the weak one). Spanking is also humiliating and demeaning to both the parent and the child, often shattering self esteem and morale.

Furthermore, spanking can also lead to serious injury, particularly when it happens in the heat of anger. Spanking after the anger has cooled may cause less physical damage, but seems even more questionable. It is certainly more cruelly calculated, and in the long run is less effective in correcting behavior, since the punishment is so far removed from the offense. Read the rest of this entry »